In any order, please

I’ve been wanting to blog about this for a while:


One night, the night before my 1st day of work, I went into Aaron’s room and eventually we got into this conversation about what will makes us happy, specifically relationship and career-wise.

I have come to the belief that I need change. I thrive off of a dynamic world that never ceases to progress and evolve. Stability leads to complacency, a place defined by comfort, static being, and unchallenging feats. That leads me to think that maybe there is no room for static concepts, such as work and marriage. You know, it always seems to be the common ideal that we all get married and work in a stable job that we can retire from in 30-some years. No one likes getting a divorce 3 times over or getting laid off or being single ‘til you are 65 or not having children. They all carry that negative connotation that makes us cringe at the thought of those things actually happening to us. But what if those things weren’t bad? What if we were happy that those actually happened?

I was telling Aaron, “What if I married someone different every 5 years?” And then I was just telling Marleina, “I think it would be awesome if I could just be an engineering manager, graphic designer, lawyer, and teacher as a careers all throughout my life.” I genuinely want to be all 5 of those sometime in my life, but the way this world is structured it doesn’t help to make it realistically possible to accomplish that.

What I think is awkward of this society is that it is unbelievably dynamic though it has static of stable ideals. And I understand why that is so. There is more structure, commitment, organization, and generally it benefits everyone.

But the worse part about it is it imprisons those who want to be liberated and truly make what they want in life happen. The way of life is infancy, education for what seems like eternity, career, relationships that lead to marriage, families, retirement into ultimate complacency, and death. With exception of infancy and death, what if we wanted to rearrange it or even completely do away with it in a way that wasn’t detrimental to our well-being?

I’m beginning to think I can.